I should SO be working right now but I have something that I absolutely must write about. GIRLFRIENDS! GIRL FRIENDS! Friends who are girls.
I have always known how important it is to have good friends. Most of us have those friends that we can call and tell the most wonderful, sad or embarrassing news to. Those friends are incredibly important in our lives! When we find out we are pregnant, decide to end our marriage or put our underwear on the wrong way and realize at the end of the night why we were walking funny all day…we need that person to call so we can have tears of joy, tears of sadness or tears of laughter TOGETHER!
I hope we all have those friends. They are hard to find. They are the ones who know us even better than we know ourselves most of the time. We call them to find out what we should eat for lunch: salad or chocolate cake? And they always have the right answer. BOTH! …and they are on their way over to join us!
So yes, we need those friends, but we also need the friends who don’t know us that well, who will tell us to eat the salad because it’s better for us and then point us in the direction of the nearest gym. The friends who don’t really know or care if we look better in the orange or green scarf, but understand where we are in our life because they’ve been there too. They have experiences and advice to share with us. And every girl…every woman…is so different, yet so very much the same!
I have great friends, both cake friends & salad friends, and I love them all dearly!! I need them all in my life! I need so many friends for so many reasons. Sometimes I like to have one-on-one time with a friend and really get personal - talk about the deep stuff, the hard-core emotional building blocks that make us who we are. And sometimes I like to sit around a table at a coffee shop with a group of women I barely know and hear their stories - their surface stories of who they are, where they work, how many kids they have, where they’ve lived and where they hope to retire. I love having so many personalities, so many voices and faces and opinions all right there together. We talk, we sip our coffee, we laugh, we share, we inspire, we learn, we strengthen our spirits TOGETHER!
Ladies, I know you are busy. We have kids. We have jobs. We have houses and dinner and yoga and laundry. But I’m telling you - make time for your girlfriends and everything on your to-do list will get done even better. Make dates for lunch or drinks and actually see each other. It’s great that we can stay in touch on facebook or send a text to say “Hows ur day?” but having personal time with friends is absolutely necessary in my book! Make the time. Call your friends now and plan coffee next week. Don’t wait for someone to invite you. Invite them! Don’t just send a text saying “wanna do coffee nxt wk?” Call them and tell them that you miss seeing them and you’d like to spend time together. Ask them if Monday at 9am at the local coffee shop works for them. If it doesn’t, how about Tuesday evening for drinks at the Mexican place down the road?
Call your friends. Enjoy your girl time! Laugh a LOT! Strengthen your spirits TOGETHER!!
